Actually that was when I was about to answer than sometimes being self-conscious is a matter of safety.
And if I'm feeling that way about looking somewhat androgynous since a few months in pretty accepting Hamburg, I can't imagine actually spending your whole life black in an openly racist place, it must be orders of magnitude more stressful.
I guess I only said super obvious stuff and I'm sorry for any non-white friend who read me and facepalmed.
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